In one of my last posts I claimed that I was determined to keep blogging. Well, I did not keep to it as religiously as I thought I might be able to. A lot has happened since my last post;I graduated from WSU-Online~Magna Cum Laude with a degree in Social Science and a minor in History, I moved to a new town with my family to be closer to my husband's work, and I have been dealing with mothering three pre-schoolers, my stepson who has come to live with us (yay!) and my adult son who has difficulty with mental issues and addiction.
I think I fell out of the habit of blogging at the end of school, and while dealing with my eldest's various crisises. What's that Chinese curse? "May you live an interesting life?" Don't get me wrong. I love being a mother and wife. I love my life and I'm grateful for everything. I have no misconceptions about just how fortunate I am. My children are the center of my life, and it is really really painful to see one of them suffer so greatly.
I was using facebook for quite some time as a substitute for blogging. I did that mainly because I felt the need to connect with people who really knew me. It's nice to have responses from friends and loved ones.
I was thinking today about the social needs we have as humans and how we tend to use our abilities with technology to communicate with one another. Today I was reading an article written by Jeff Lee, MD, in the December issue of Seattle's Child. In his article
Confessions of a Faulty iDad
, Lee explains why he chooses not to have a cell phone, and how this affects his relationship with his environment...particularly his family. Lee has chosen specifically to not use one particular form of technology to communicate with others, including his family and children. He does not even have an emergency cell phone. He jokingly calls his lack of a phone a "condition" and notes that when people ask how he "lives without one" he says, "As bizarre as it sounds, I was actually born without one(Lee, 11)."
I think if there were any kind of technology I would choose to live without it would be my computer. I love email, facebook, the fact that I completed my college education online...but as Lee pointed out in his article, we loose a certain amount of real human contact when we place a piece of technology between ourselves and our friends, loved ones, fellow co-workers and classmates. I've lived without a computer for much of my life, and I had a hard time getting to know the technology. I graduated High School in 1992. The only computers I had access to were the ones in my school's computer lab. Not even my local library had one. When I started my business in 1999, I had a facy smancy electric typewriter with a little screen akin to Word Perfect (for those of you who may remember that ancient OS. I thought it was amazingly convienient to word process on it, then press a button and let the type fly! It was a year later when I bought a computer, ordered dial-up internet, and got my very first email account. It took me forever with trial and error, and almost blowing up my hard drive before I could navigate through the web. I did not even start looking things up on the internet for another two years! So the thought of not having a computer...I could deal with. In fact the need to phisically go somewhere to get information would not take a whole lot of getting used to.
I can sympathize with Lee's comments about his children. He says that he can't get texts from them or share the joy of the technology with them. In fact he insists that when they go to have dinner together that their cell phones have to stay at home. Lee says that he catches some criticism for that, but I have to agree with him. I think he is teaching his children how to interact with him without a device in hand, and not through that device...which means they have to speak to him, make eye contact, and listen to what he has to say.
Although I think I can live without my cell as Lee does and I can live without a computer, I do like the quality of life this technology brings us, just as my electric typewriter improved my life many years ago. We can "live" without quite a bit. We just don't know it because we don't have to. But being able to pay my bills online, look for a good dentist or preschool, send grandparents pictures, let my teenager email his teacher ect. are all things that benefit my family, and connect us more to our world. Lee makes an excellent point that we must excercise our ability, make a point of the importance of personal communications and teach this to our children.
Works Cited
Seattle's Child
.Lee, Jeff, M.D.December 2011. p. 11.